When you are no longer a couple you need to adjust and take on some of the things that your partner used to do. Its a time to learn new things and for personal growth.
In many relationships we divide up the tasks and get better at different things. Its a bit like as our children grow up; if we continue to do their ironing they will never learn.
Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? It’s not a helpful trait and can lead to disappointment and a dropping of confidence.
I was reminded of this when dancing on Thursday night, up till a couple months ago we enjoyed dance classes but rarely went to a dance. When we did we tended to sit out, a bit embarrassed to get up on the floor. Others were so much better than us. Even though we knew most had been dancing for years (against our one and a bit years) we felt we should be so much better.
I love the flexibility of working for myself. I love supporting my clients to make a career change. I love to research and write. I enjoy leading Pre-retirement seminars, and its interesting to go to London for my consultancy assignments.
It looks like my consultancy work is going to end so Ive got space to take on something new. I could easily contact other consultancy firms, and work on assessment centres, but is that what I really want to do. It will feel like a backwards step to what I was doing 20 years ago.
I’m 60 and I’m in my prime. I’m going to move forward on my terms.
Many people talk of growing old disgracefully. I’m never too sure what they mean, but in my mind, they are going to act like many in their teens and early 20s, drinking too much and giving it large.
But that’s not me.
I started a diary on 1st January, then put it to one side. Would people be interested in what I have to say? But I’m a writer, I’m a career coach, and seek to inspire people to make the rest of their life, their best life. So here I am.
Back on 1st January I entered my 60th year. It seems so old, like many I don’t feel my age, people tell me I don’t look my age, and I seek out adventures.
We all say we don’t mind constructive criticism, problem is often it is unfair. The way someone criticises us definitely tells us a lot about the other person.
Its easy to get defensive but we also need to listen. What is the truth in this?
This is a draft post – will add later but want to see one in place
