Category: Self-Understanding

You want to learn more about the person you are, how to best make an impact, and live a life in line with your values.

Developing confidence – 10 every day practical tips to boost your self esteem

Many of my clients tell me they lack confidence, try these 10 practical tips for developing confidence

Say stop to your inner critic

We all have an inner critic. The voice that tells us that we cant do something, that we are too fat and look far older than our friends. Say STOP and change it with something else remind yourself of your smooth skin, your ability to listen well to friends. This negative voice is not your friend.
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You are lovely just the way you are

People of all ages are insecure about their bodies, but it seems to be worse for people aged 50+, both men and women.

Aim to be confident, and believe in your beauty.

Pro tip for bad body image days:

Look at yourself the way youd look at a cat.

Living alone can mean that we need to learn new skills

When you are no longer a couple you need to adjust and take on some of the things that your partner used to do. Its a time to learn new things and for personal growth.
In many relationships we divide up the tasks and get better at different things. Its a bit like as our children grow up; if we continue to do their ironing they will never learn.
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Stop comparing yourself to others

Stop comparing yourself to others?

Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? It’s not a helpful trait and can lead to disappointment and a dropping of confidence.

I was reminded of this when dancing on Thursday night, up till a couple months ago we enjoyed dance classes but rarely went to a dance. When we did we tended to sit out, a bit embarrassed to get up on the floor. Others were so much better than us. Even though we knew most had been dancing for years (against our one and a bit years) we felt we should be so much better.
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Turning 60 – time for a career change (Part 1)

Should I make a career change?

I love the flexibility of working for myself. I love supporting my clients to make a career change. I love to research and write. I enjoy leading Pre-retirement seminars, and its interesting to go to London for my consultancy assignments.
It looks like my consultancy work is going to end so Ive got space to take on something new. I could easily contact other consultancy firms, and work on assessment centres, but is that what I really want to do. It will feel like a backwards step to what I was doing 20 years ago.
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60 – moving forward on my terms

I’m 60 and I’m in my prime. I’m going to move forward on my terms.
Many people talk of growing old disgracefully. I’m never too sure what they mean, but in my mind, they are going to act like many in their teens and early 20s, drinking too much and giving it large.
But that’s not me.
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Turning 60: older, wiser and finding myself – part 1

As I age –Turning 60 older, wiser and finding myself

I started a diary on 1^st January, then put it to one side. Would people be interested in what I have to say? But I’m a writer, I’m a career coach, and seek to inspire people to make the rest of their life, their best life. So here I am.
Back on 1^st January I entered my 60^th year. It seems so old, like many I don’t feel my age, people tell me I don’t look my age, and I seek out adventures.
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Criticism – it can be hard to accept, especially if unfair

We all say we don’t mind constructive criticism, problem is often it is unfair. The way someone criticises us definitely tells us a lot about the other person.
Its easy to get defensive but we also need to listen. What is the truth in this?
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