Did this help?
Of course not, we sat on the edge, and left early.
Something has now clicked, and we are much happier with what we can do. Enjoying using the steps we know and appreciating the beauty of others dance.
And when I’m asked to dance I say thank you rather than starting off by apologising for not being very experienced.
I read an article recently by James Clear which resonated as it used dance as an example. You can read the article here but the key message is
- You are a poor judge of your own work
- It is not your job to judge your work
- It is not your job to compare yourself to others
- It is your job to create, to share what you offer from where you are right now.
So whether you are a dancer, an artist, a writer or whatever. Do your work well and put it out there. Otherwise you will hold back. You will miss out, and the world will miss out.
Do not let your self-judgement stop you from doing your thing.
Stop comparing yourself to others
There will always be someone better than you, and that sets you up to fail. Instead look to yourself to the work you produce and aim to be a little better next time. The race is with yourself, no one else.
Look to what you do but not in judgement, picking things apart looking for all the flaws.
View it instead as a helpful friend, looking for what went well and appreciating that, and noting a couple of actions to consider for next time.
Remember the good stuff
I was talking with one of my clients yesterday about being kind to ourselves, and the importance of recognising positive feedback from others, rather than brushing it off. You know when someone says that you look nice and you say “this old thing” We should stop that type of comment and say thank you.
It is also useful to write it down so on the days when we question our self-worth we can review our note book full of positive comments so you can refer to it again. If you don’t keep a recognition book or a document on your computer why not start today?
This post was first published on the Amazing People Website. on February 20, 2016