It’s a very strange world. I’ve realised that there are many people out there who have no intention of meeting up the messaging goes on and on and they are probably married or in a relationship. Perhaps some are just too scared to meet.
I remember learning this fact from a webinar with the head of the dating industry group. It’s from Bumble but believed to be typical – Over 60% of people doing online dating are already in a relationship and are there for an emotional ego boost, women as well as men. Apparently if the person you are messaging online hasn’t given you their phone number within 48 hours, they are married.
People of all ages can struggle to get another job. When we are out of work, and need a job NOW, it is even more difficult.
When we are very committed to an outcome it comes through, people can feel and hear your desperation. It is when we want anything that we need to step back from the outcome. Same for people desperate for a relationship and going through online dating.
I read articles about people who have struggled to get a job at 50+. People who say they have applied for hundreds of jobs, applying for 20+ a week. Several a day.
One was on – how to make the most of your retirement and quotes from me include:
The act of being prepared for retirement is also something that Denise ofAmazing Peoplerecommends. Denise is a career and life coach, and also the chief inspiration officer atThe 50Plus Coach. She says that retirement should not be seen as an end but a new beginning. Denise spoke to us about how important it is to start thinking about retirement early:
Start thinking now, and think about your wider life you will have an extra 2,000 hours a year, how do you want to spend them? Do you want to start a new hobby, go back to work, to do a job you love, focus on volunteering or devote time to a sport or hobby? Get thinking of all the things that you would like to do. Also, think about where you want to live. Do you want to downsize or right size? Maybe a move from the country to a town or city.
I’m no longer reading womens’ magazines. Yet again seduced by the offer of getting 3 issues of a glossy monthly for 1 pound, I signed up for 3. My mum likes them but WHAT IS THE POINT. Too many articles focused on looking good, expensive clothes and ads for expensive skin care.
Many articles focus on women who look great for their age. Good Housekeeping has an article on Davina McCall. I read something recently on Carole Vorderman. There are numerous actors, but it is their job to stay within accepted views of beauty. And who is it that says we need to conform to a stereotype anyway.
What impact does that have on you? Do you see yourself as a creative person or do you think you lack any signs of this?
So let us look at some of the key suggestions from an article by Stan Goldberg – Four Creativity Strategies to Recharge an Aging Brain
First, creativity does not mean being an artist. We dont need to produce a work of art. Adapting a recipe can still build new neural connections.
New research shows that daily light walking is important for maintaining health as you age. But if you can’t hit 10,000 steps, don’t worry.
There’s nothing magical about the number 10,000.
In fact, the idea of walking at least 10,000 steps a day for health goes back decades to a marketing campaign launched in Japan to promote a pedometer. And, in subsequent years, it was adopted in the U.S. as a goal to promote good health. It’s often the default setting on fitness trackers, but what’s it really based on?
“The original basis of the number was not scientifically determined,” says researcher I-Min Lee of Brigham and Women’s Hospital.
Society gives short shrift to older age. This distinct phase of life doesnt get the same attention thats devoted to childhood. And the special characteristics of people in their 60s, 70s, 80s and beyond are poorly understood.
Medicine reflects this narrow-mindedness. In medical school, physicians learn that people in the prime of life are normal and scant time is spent studying aging. In practice, doctors too often fail to appreciate older adults unique needs or to tailor treatments appropriately.
Imagine a better way. Older adults would be seen as different than, not less than. The phases of later life would be mapped and expertise in aging would be valued, not discounted.
I love travel, mainly long haul and for several weeks. But this last weekend has made me appreciate the value of a short break.
I am a fan of Meet Up Groups and TravelTogetherUK had a trip organised to Kiev and Chernobyl. No hesitation; count me in!
A man I was dating at the time thought it would be enough to watch a TV programme, but I want to experience life, not be an observer.
What was great about this group trip compared to commercial companies like Exodus was that we had a WhatsApp group created so we were chatting in advance and it made it easy to find and coordinate our activities whilst away.